Imagine you are in what you believe is a solid relationship, then one day, you find the evidence that you’ve been lied to, cheated on, and betrayed! You’ve felt in your gut that something was wrong for a long time, but you’ve ignored it, and now you’ve found solid proof. You confront your relationship, and rather than admitting guilt and getting an apology, you’re lied to, yelled at, and treated like you’re the bad one. You discover the shock of being in a narcissistic relationship.
Money Loss
You feel broken, and then your income takes a dramatic drop. You’ve lost focus, motivation, and memory on what you need to do to generate more income and keep up with expenses.
What’s The Connection?
Curious about my personal experience, I posted a question on a Facebook group I’m in for narcissistic abuse asking if anyone’s income was affected after experiencing trauma from betrayal. Surprisingly, I received many comments from other women who had experienced the same thing. Many women were blown away after discovering the connection between the breakdown of their finances and their breakdown from hurt and betrayal.
What If Your Hurt Happened Years Ago?
Regardless of how long ago it happened, it could still affect your life and finances today. One woman said that her experience happened seven years ago, and her funds have never changed.
How Does This Happen?
Most people believe that trauma is only caused by something more serious such as being involved in a war. Though that’s true, grief is the leading cause of trauma for many people. Grief can come from heartbreak and betrayal.
The Popcorn Effect
When hurt, many people experience the “popcorn effect.” Imagine popcorn kernels being dropped into a big pot of oil without a lid, and the popcorn begins to pop fast. The popcorn rises to the top, and the hot kernels jump out of the pot and fly everywhere.
The popcorn kernels are the emotions and beliefs that you already have inside you that have been kept pretty calm until the hurt happens. This heats the oil, and all of the negative emotions and questions of “why” get popping like crazy so fast that you feel defeated, helpless, and lost.
Why is Money Affected By Betrayal Trauma?
Money is energy,, period; it is either drawn to you or repelled by the energy and the beliefs you put out.
Victimization Vibration
Many people will have obsessive thoughts and conversations from morning till night about their hurtful experiences. These obsessive thoughts and conversations keep you stuck on a channel that will keep replaying, creating a strong victim vibration that influences everything around you, including money.
Feelings of Lack & Worthlessness
Feelings of lack and worthlessness can come up and intensify. Once those feelings are heightened, it produces the vibration of lack and worthlessness, thus changing the energy of money or anything else into that of lack and worthlessness.
How Money Is Drawn To You
Money is drawn to you from feelings of love, gratitude, trust, pleasure, and confidence. Without it, money is not attracted to you.
Toxic Hate and Anger
It’s normal to feel anger and hate at first; however, when you hang onto it, you are lowering your vibration in a way that repels money and opportunities from you even though you were the one who was hurt.
“How foolish for us to punish ourselves in the present moment because someone hurt us in the past” Lois L. Hay
How You Can Heal
Here are some steps you can do right away to heal yourself and your financial flow.
- Forgive EVERYTHING and ANYTHING!
One of the most challenging things about healing is a willingness to forgive. You may feel that if you forgive, you are making it ok for the person to get away with hurting you without punishment. The reality is the only one you are hurting is yourself.
Here is an affirmation I love from Lois Hay: “I forgive you for not being the way I want you to be. I forgive you, and I set you free.” This affirmation will set you free when you repeatedly say it whenever you think of the person or persons that did you wrong.
Also, every day, you must forgive EVERYTHING and ANYTHING you’re angry or frustrated with, including things!
Why?
Because it’s like someone exposed to toxic substances, so now their immune system is compromised, you have compromised your vibrational energy with toxic emotions for so long that you are extra sensitive to any little added to it. Even if you get frustrated that a bird pooped on your windshield!
- Embrace The Popcorn Effect
You will have emotions when you are hurt, even if it was years ago, so yes, the popcorn effect will happen. Nothing can be healed or cleared unless we know it’s there, so this is when the popcorn effect can work for you. Every time you feel the popcorn effect happening, ask yourself, “what am I feeling right now?” Let the feelings come up, and imagine them being surrounded by love and releasing through your chest area.
- Stop Re-telling Your Victim Story
When you consistently repeat your story in a way that labels you as a helpless victim, then you will create the energy that draws that to you. Practice a more empowering way to share your story, such as, “yes, it hurt what my ex did, and whatever issues he has that caused him to do that, it’s his journey. I have mine now, and I’m healing every day!”
- Regain Trust
It’s common to lose trust in the person who betrayed you, but you can also lose faith in yourself, love, other people, and even money. How is the money going to be attracted to you if you don’t have trust? Say to yourself a few times daily, “I trust myself, I trust money, I trust love, I trust life!” Bring up positive, excited emotions while saying this to give these affirmations the power to work.
- Use Vibrational Boosters
Because trauma can lower your vibration, it’s essential to pick a few things to do daily to boost your vibration, such as…
- Dancing
- Hugging Animals
- Listening to frequency music such as Solfeggio music
- Watching funny cartoons
- Laughing with friends
- Hot bubble bath
- Make a list of anything that usually makes you feel good and pick a few you can do daily, or Google suggestions on raising your vibration.
Unfortunately, many people don’t understand or believe the trauma that betrayal and heartbreak can cause. Still, it’s real, and from my experience and the numerous comments I got on Facebook, it can drastically affect your money flow too. Move forward now, raise your vibration, and know that by doing the healing work, you will heal and move on happy and prosperous!
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